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Conversations with children about a birthday cake

I told my sister that my wife and I needed to conference with her children. She agreed, bemused.

We had to go round after tea on Saturday because they were stuck on a Mario Wonder level. So my wife played with them, trying to instill some sort of discipline and tactics. And failing.

While they were having a sanity break we huddled. "What decorations shall we do for Mummy's birthday cake?" I asked.

"Flowers," said the eight-year-old.

"That's such a good idea, which is why we did daffodils last year."

"Daffodils," said the three-year-old.

"Bugs," said the five-year-old.

"Does Mummy like bugs, though?" She definitely does not.

"No."

"Okay, so, more ideas."

"Sheep," said the eight-year-old.

"We did that the year before."

"A butterfly," said the eight-year-old.

"Great!" I said. Thinking, we're done here.

"But that's a bug," the five-year-old complained.

My wife, who had to actually make and decorate this cake, was clearly unsure. "That's good, that's the right direction. Anything else?"

"The beach," said the eight-year-old.

While I wouldn't describe my sister as being a beach person, at all, I could sort of see it.

We discussed this briefly. Everyone was pleased.

"Okay," my wife said. "Beach is looking good. Any more ideas before we decide?"

"Bugs," said the five-year-old.

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